I have gotten so many private emails from women who have been afraid to talk about their HPV and/or Cervical Cancer. This is a shame and its societies fault. That's right folks you and I are to blame. And I'm not just talking about HPV and Cervical Cancer. Its all those things that we fear. For some reason our society labels people and things that we don't understand as "Bad" "Dirty" "Not Like Us". I believe we do this because if we push the unknown away from us it can't happen to us, right?!? WRONG!
My dear friend's mother died of Ovarian Cancer. When people would come visit her mother they would sit by her bed side trying to figure out how/why Trish had gotten cancer. Was it the Coal Mines where she grew up? Yes that must be what it was because they hadn't grown up there and would be safe from receiving the same diagnosis. Trish didn't want them to "figure out" why she was dying from cancer. I don't want you to figure out why I had Cervical Cancer. My other friends father who died of Lung cancer didn't need that either. Stop being so afraid of what could happen to you folks. I don't know, you don't know only God knows. Live your life with love in your heart, curiosity in my mind and spirit in your soul. But beware of fear and self importance, that is not a way to live!
If we all just started talking about those things we were afraid of I promise you the fear would subside. The more I talk about my cancer the less it owns me! Give others permission to talk to by supporting them and not meeting them with fear, judgment or any other self serving comments. No one should be afraid to talk about their cancer battle in fear that others will dislike them, push them away or tell them they did something to deserve it.
Lets all stop this cycle and help other men and woman share their stories with the world!!
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