tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689735678964373295.post2237033617444799750..comments2024-03-27T10:17:39.781-07:00Comments on I Kicked Cancer's Ass: What can I do for my loved one??Meaghanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09225824099156032765noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689735678964373295.post-17991843413189674182009-01-03T21:16:00.000-08:002009-01-03T21:16:00.000-08:00suggestion: remember the caregivers! My mom with b...suggestion: remember the caregivers! My mom with brain cancer lived with me for several weeks before her sugery, as she declined and lost mobility... I think people assumed that if she was with me, no help was needed. I have a family and a job... it would have been REALLY nice to have some meals brought by a couple of times a week and a little help with housework... Not whining - just sayin'!! :)Junque Rethunquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07670510181195435203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689735678964373295.post-8641547596663316442008-11-07T07:30:00.000-08:002008-11-07T07:30:00.000-08:00VERY well written! You speak for me, too!Especiall...VERY well written! You speak for me, too!<BR/><BR/>Especially the phone calls. Those were so hard. I felt guilty not answering the phone. People got their feelings hurt. Then I felt worse. Hard, hard situation.<BR/><BR/>You kicked cancer's ass! and I'm proud to "know" you!Jesicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15821081860057372993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689735678964373295.post-23819780230381518302008-08-23T08:10:00.000-07:002008-08-23T08:10:00.000-07:00Great blog, Meg! Sorry it has taken me so long to ...Great blog, Meg! Sorry it has taken me so long to get over here but I'll fill you in later. I love the Dos & Don'ts; however, I'd add one caveat about calling. I thought it was great when people called though Katie and I rarely answered. Our friends didn't expect us to and we got to see that they cared and hear their voice. It was nice.Noletubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08269903957948084513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689735678964373295.post-72720552951382754322008-08-22T14:49:00.000-07:002008-08-22T14:49:00.000-07:00Thanks for the great ideas!!! My dad has lymphoma ...Thanks for the great ideas!!! My dad has lymphoma and when he is in the hospital I never know what to do or give.<BR/><BR/>Thanks you so much.Finding Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02196947136234799600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689735678964373295.post-42502757262871996482008-08-22T12:43:00.000-07:002008-08-22T12:43:00.000-07:00Great post Meaghan, once again you hit the nail on...Great post Meaghan, once again you hit the nail on the head! Especially with the "don't do nothing" and "nothing that smells"! To this day I'm still bothered by strong perfumes and colognes.<BR/><BR/>I wanted to add hand held games to the list of "buy" items. My sister gave me a hand-held Yahtzee game that I got a lot of use out of. It took minimal thought, but kept me occupied. And slip-on slippers. I hated those sock things. Anything that takes the extra effort of bending over (especially after surgery)won't get used. <BR/><BR/>On the list of what not to do...<BR/>don't wait for your loved one to contact you. They aren't feeling well and won't for some time. To say 'call me when you're up to it' means you will NOT get a call.<BR/><BR/>Don't get upset when they don't answer your call. They are tired and aren't up to talking, but they do very much appreciate hearing a loved ones voice on the other end say "I'm thinking of you".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689735678964373295.post-11911848386443385162008-08-22T09:59:00.001-07:002008-08-22T09:59:00.001-07:00hey girl! WHAT a great idea to write down what ppl...hey girl! <BR/>WHAT a great idea to write down what ppl can bring their loved ones that suffer from cancer! <BR/>i just read through it and i was waiting for the MUSIC part..and there it was...to me MUSIC has been(and still is) a VERY important part that helped me. <BR/>although i have to say, compared to YOU my "lil bastard" i had inside was nothing, lets just say " i have been lucky they found it that early"...i just wish you wouldn't had to go through all that...<BR/><BR/>*HUUUUGS*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6689735678964373295.post-2456571730169881042008-08-22T09:59:00.000-07:002008-08-22T09:59:00.000-07:00This post really hit home so to speak- as a daught...This post really hit home so to speak- as a daughter whose mother lost the long battle with cancer, I know how to, and how not to show your support to those who are struggling with the disease and the treatment. I found that people react to those who are ill by how it effects them and also think about what they would want if in the same situation, people also rationalize why this would never happen to them and therefore feel the need to blame the victim and name all the reasons why they could be sick. For my mother I witnessed friends and even close family thinking up reasons (by her hospital bed) that she had ovarian cancer, one really good one was because she grew up in a coal camp and the toxins had taken effect now- it was almost as if they could name it, and they had never grew up in a coal camp they were safe. All I can say about support is think about the person who is sick not yourself and you will end up really being there for them. And this is the biggest biggest don’t_ Don’t sit by there bed side and try and figure out why is happened, because cancer is random and cruel and can strike anyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com